Oops! Sorry! Quick update......

Yes, I know I haven't blogged in, umm, a while..... Here's a quick post just to get up to speed. I did meet the guy I mentioned in the last blog. We met on a Wednesday night at the mall. He arrived late (called and let me know at least) and I was very happy when I saw him that he was actually better looking in person than in his pictures! He was the definition of tall, dark and handsome!! Gave me a nice hug hello and then picked the place to eat without asking my opinion! Sushi it was! We sit at the sushi bar where the food comes around on a rotating conveyor belt..... in the mall..... I'm a little iffy about it! He says we can order off the menu and if there is something coming around that I want to try, grab it! So we start to talk, blah blah blah, I feel like I am being interviewed! He was very confident and had no problem asking me pretty much about anything and everything! We order a few things off the menu and then he picks a few things off the conveyor. I ask what he has and he tells me it's a Mexican roll. I want to try it and I tell him this. He actually MOVES his plate over so I can't reach it and tells me to grab a pink plate off the conveyor as it goes by..... NO WAY!! He is not going to share!!! I am not happy about this at all as I am the type of person who loves to pick off of someone's plate and always happy to offer to share mine! So we eat a little, talk a lot, head out. He is separated, not divorced. He has 3 young children. He is the youngest of 13 (maybe that's why he can't share?) He walks me to my car and gives me a hug and a nice kiss goodnight. He asks if I'd like to see him again and I say sure. I leave, he leaves. He sends me an email next day saying he had a good time and to call him when I get back from vaca so he can take me out again. I am home. I have not called.......

I have date 4 already scheduled with Golf and we meet at a place close to my house. It is the first night of Passover and my kids are celebrating with their dad and family. We sit down and almost immediately he starts to bitch about how his son and ex wife are at her new "jew boyfriend's" house eating "jew food". I don't even try to hide my annoyance at his comments this time around. I call him out on it. He is very defensive and doesn't try to cover up the fact that he is really pissed that his 5 year old son is at Passover dinner. I try to play devil's advocate and tell him it's just dinner for God sake!! I mention, yet again, that my children are the product of a Jewish father and are at their own celebration as we speak. He says that's fine because they have a Jewish parent and it's not fine for his son because he does not. He goes on and on about how he is the only one that is supposed to teach his son about religion and not some Jew boyfriend of his ex wife. I decide he is a jerk and try to move on from the conversation in a last ditch effort to enjoy dinner. He moves on to politics. He is now carrying on about how he could have ended the pirate hostage thing in 1 day and our president doesn't know what he's doing, etc...... I am dumbfounded. He knows I disagree with him on his political views, and religious views, and he asks me if this is the last time he will see me. I tell him that we shouldn't discuss religion or politics and just have a nice dinner. He continues now to ask me over and over if I was going to see him again! Dinner is on the table and I'm hungry. I really want to eat it. I do not want to get up and leave before I can but I am feeling the urge to excuse myself and never come back! I tell him that our differences might be a deal breaker. He says he knew it. I eat fast!!! He pays the bill and we go out to the parking lot. He says he knows this is the last time he is going to see me but if I want to go to a Yankee game with him when I get back he will gladly take me (nice way to try to bribe me!!) We say our goodbyes and I am happy to be on my way! During the week I was away he sends me a few text messages. I ignore them all. When I got back I sent him an email saying that it was very nice to have met him but that I think our differences of opinion are great enough and that we are probably not a good match. Good luck, take care! 2 days later he sends me almost the same email! He is playing it off like he did not read mine and this is all his idea. Normally I wouldn't care and just be relieved it is done! BUT for some reason this pissed me off! No way dude! it was ME saying this to YOU! I send him back an email saying that it was funny how much his sounded like the one I sent and perhaps he didn't get it? He answers that he was in AC for the weekend and didn't get it (yeah, okay) and that at least we agree on 1 thing....... HAHAHAHA!!! I let him have the last word.....

2 more dates to go..... will post more later!

Monday, Monday.... not too good for me.....

I was highly anticipating my evening with Golf after my Saturday night fiasco with Angry. I give him the name of the place I have come to enjoy in my dating frenzy (might as well keep 1 aspect of this whole ride simple!) He meets me at Jose O'Reilley's and as soon as he greets me at my car he has me in his arms and plants a very passionate kiss on me. I was not expecting this at all so I pulled away a little sooner than he probably would have liked. Where is my shy guy? I'm happy that I was welcomed with such a nice kiss but it just caught me off guard. We go inside and I am careful not to sit at the same table that I sat with for my dates with Mr. Smarty Pants or Angry. I cozy in to a corner table and he sits along side me. I like the set up here which is probably why I have become a frequent flier. There are tables along the walls and in the corners with cushioned window seats. There are bar stools that can be pulled up along side making it easy to get close without having to actually sit side by side. I motion for Golf to sit where I think he should and he pulls up a stool. We order some beer on tap and ask for dinner menus. After we secure our dinner orders we get to talking. At first it is small talk, about our kids, our day at work, random conversation. Somewhere along the way he veers off course and again, without any warning, the conversation turns to sex. He is telling me about how he likes his partner to dress....in the bedroom. He asks me if I wear "bloomers" BLOOMERS??? I nearly choked when he said that. I told him the last person I hear to use that word was my grandmother. He asks me if I think he is being offensive, and truthfully he is not, but I just wasn't ready to go there with him. He is shattering my image of a slow, shy, gentleman and now he is exposing his inner penis. I guess when you carry a concealed weapon, eventually it is going to make itself known. I change the subject. We talk some more about golf and kids and work. He blurts out how sexy he thinks I am. Really? With the fajita sauce dripping down the side of my mouth? Ugh. I'm not complaining. It's nice to hear that you are found sexy. Just at this particular place and time I am more interested in the sour cream and beans and getting them rolled up nicely with the chicken to make a perfect fajita. I ask him how he likes his meal. It's good. We start to talk about a radio show that aired that morning asking the question "how long should you date someone before sleeping with them". He wants to know, hypothetically, how long would I wait. I tell him that I think it is a case by case scenario and that if and when the opportunity presented itself, I would decide at that point if I was ready to take that next step with someone. He "agrees" but wants to know how I feel about him, again, hypothetically. i tell him that I am not thinking about sleeping with him at this point. He laughs it off and tells me that he wasn't thinking about it either or he would have cleaned his house and when will I go out with him again? Just like that. I suggest after I return from my trip to NC but he thinks that is waaaaaaaay too long and wants to see me before I leave. We make plans for Saturday night. (I remember after I get home that I am leaving Saturday morning and therefore can not have plans with anyone on Saturday night unless their name is Donna and they are picking me up from the airport). He also has some "comments" about his ex wife and her "jew" boyfriend. I make sure he realizes that my dad was Jewish and so is my ex husband. I do not think he meant it in a derogatory way but it is seeming to me that he might be a little ignorant. He is angry that his ex wife wants to take their son to her boyfriend's parent's house for Passover. He told her no way that he "did not want his son wearing a beanie hat and eating Jewish food". I ask him why and he has no good answer. I tell him I think he is being silly and that I think he should pick his battles with his ex. This is dinner, not a conversion attempt. Then he rambles on something about when his son makes his communion he is the one that is going to be sitting with him in the church, not her boyfriend. I ask him why he is worrying about things that are so far in the future. Again, he has no good reason. I ask him the same question I asked on our first date - "do you see things getting better between you and your ex wife?" He says never. Hmpf. I have to ask myself if I want to be involved with someone who is going to fight with his ex over every little thing. I choose not to live that way and I really don't know if I want to be involved with someone who chooses differently. Too many things on this date that made me skeptical. Dates 1 and 2 were awesome. Date 3, not as much. I will still go out with him again and this time I will be prepared to stop him if I do not like where the conversation is going. We head out to the parking lot and he again takes in his arms and kisses me like he means it. He is a little more "touchy" (but not in a groping kind of way) as he runs his hands up and down my back and explores the curves of my hips. He tells me again that he finds me incredibly sexy. I tell him goodnight and kiss him softly on his cheek. He shuts my car door after I get in and I pull out of the parking lot and make my way home.

For now I will stick to the routine of meeting new men. I made plans for Wednesday evening to meet a new guy (name to be determined upon meeting). I am quite interested to see what this guy is all about. He has captured my attention and my curiosity through our conversations and I am looking forward to the date. What to wear, what to wear? ;)